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On 2007-09-29 18:22:00, ROSAN wrote:
Ppl around me say that I am rude. I agree. I always bring my pvt problems and mess with them and speak rude. I tried but can't control my feelings. I just get aggression when someone is against me. I know its wrong and I should respect everyone's feeling. But . . . .
So cool ppls around here would you Plz say me how to control my Anger. Thanks in advance.
Rosan, usually anger comes when we don't feel good about ourselves so we want to be angry at other people (it's better than feeling bad about ourselves).
If you can work on feeling better about yourself, for example, if you know deep inside that no matter what the other person does, you are still a worthwhile person, then you won't feel so angry when people do things that hurt you. You will feel more understanding and tolerant.
Atleast that works for me. I have a big anger problem too
Probably you can see that from some of the dogfight's I get into on esato.
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Posted: 2007-09-30 04:24:26
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Thanks Guys.
I will strictly try to follow your instructions. You are right guys why should I punish myself being rude in others mistake?
Anyway guys I will try my best.
Guys Am also poor in communicating with new person so would you Plz guide me How To communicate With New ppl And Make Friends. I am very poor In making friends. It takes me a year to make one friend. Plz guide me.
Thanks for your suggestions. I am feeling Good Now.
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Posted: 2007-09-30 06:35:00
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I would say that to make someone friend is very easy then keep friendship fresh and outlast is very difficult task. Some people have so many friends but barely having true feeling of love and sincere in those amity. Where as there are some people who prefer quite few but sincere friends. So its not necessary to have a large number of buddies. However you asked How to make friends. You don’t need to do anything for making friends. Just be yourself, and don’t pretend. Its reminds me a song: “You really don’t need to pretend, if you really want to make a friend, who cares if your hair is too long, never mind if your clothes are wrong, everything’s alright we can hang together..we can be best friend for ever!...” lol!
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Posted: 2007-10-03 00:31:00
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I believe being polite is already a huge leap towards making new friends. If you can learn to control your anger, think about your words before you say it, and learn to smile sincerely -- you won't need to make an effort to make friends, they will come knocking on your door!
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Posted: 2007-10-03 10:15:39
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I don't think you can go far wrong if you just treat people as you would like to be treated yourself.
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Posted: 2007-10-03 10:30:53
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These are all very good suggestions. I'll add mine;
1. Be honest, but don't speak ill of yourself.
2. Ask them questions about things they are interested in. They will talk back and try to help.
3. When they talk, listen to them very carefully.
4. As they are talking, don't keep constant eye contact as it may irritate people, but don't just look around as if you're bored and looking for a way out.
5. Don't make fun of people's dreams, even if it seems meaningless for you. Remember, your friend is sharing his/her biggest most important stuff with you.
6. Try to be straightforward, i mean, don't resort to allusions. I'm not saying be rude, just be clear on what you mean.
I'm sorry, that's a long list, there are a lot more i can think of right now, but i don't want to sound cocky posting more. Cheers!
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Posted: 2007-10-03 10:51:47
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