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Think I made it to about 4.30am when I snuck in and went to bed lol, the dog needed water and it wasn't fair on him keeping him out.

I won't ignore what Paul said as he doesn't understand the situation, my dad is dead to me mate, I won't ever speak to him again, sad yes but life goes on.

I'll just game in my room for a bit and let them all calm down

As for friends, maybe I'm stubborn? but that's a long story too, 60% my fault and 40% theirs, obviously it involves a girl, can't have a life drama without one lol

Thanks for the kind words all, I'm sure all will be fine.
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Posted: 2008-07-02 15:21:07
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Good to hear that you didn't freeze to death anyway. Do not lose your friends over a girl, as they come and go, unlike your true friends.
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Posted: 2008-07-02 18:15:06
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guna be callous.

What have you done, to make you family want you to move out? There must be something more to it.

I think you should look at this objectively and remove emotion from the situation, then look at what you can do to change things.
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Posted: 2008-07-02 19:16:23
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Obviously nobody is 101% perfect, you have already admitted that you were at fault with the breakdown in relationship between your friends, but you not willing to give your father a second chance for what may have been a mistake. Once again I am not justifying what he did, but I would rather have someone move on if the love has gone than to stick it and make the atmosphere worse.

Can I ask have you ever cheated on anyone?

Either way I wish you luck, I do hope you can manage to sort things with family as you will come to realise they the only people that will have you back should worst come to worst. May not seem like it now but you will be surprised.
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Posted: 2008-07-02 19:28:59
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Couldn't agree more.
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Posted: 2008-07-02 19:36:54
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^^^

Make that three!

And well done for accepting that some of this mess is your own fault. Sorry if that sounds condescending because I'm really not being being funny here but as the old saying goes, "It takes two to tango", and accepting your part in it can be a very difficult thing to do.

But it's also the first step to sorting things out. Once everybody has calmed down a bit, you can begin slowly building bridges and use your experience to try to avoid similar situations arising in the future . I know that's probably impossible, but at least you'll be able to see them coming!

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Posted: 2008-07-02 19:45:25
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The reason is (and Massur knows this lmao) I am moany and argumentative lmao

But I feel it's deserved, for example I stacked and emptied the dishwasher, so all the stuff was put away and the dishwasher empty....brother and sister bring down empty cups and plates....and put them in in the sink, like they're going to magically get put in to the dishwasher.

Small thing I know, but there's other stuff like, my bro's room is always so messy to can't see any of the floor, it's discusting.

I don't download when other people are on laptops/desktops out of respect, yet my brother streams 2-3 epps of south park at once (lets them buffer)...which slows the whole thing down for everyone and then claims "it isn't downloading"...idiot.

Then there's the, I've had a chocolate bar, so the appropriate place for the wrapper is the living room floor.


2 more serious ones:

We have a 42" samsung Plasma TV right by a big french door....which my mum never locks, and the gate is right next to it, you could be in and out of the house with the TV in under 30seconds, last week I came down, the door was unlocked, the 2 side windows were open and the other back door was open, and the back gate unlocked and the kitchen window wide open...

I "Moan" that the insurance company won't cover us for any loss if anything got stolen because you left doors unlocked and windows open yet she still does it every night.

Second serious one is, human food upsets my dog's stomach, so I've asked people many times not to feed the dog, yet after people have had their tea, I come down and I find 1-2 plates sitting on the floor for the dog to lick, which is just discusting!


Me being petty, or valid points...
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Posted: 2008-07-02 21:44:10
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Pretty much petty to be honest, as they don't directly interfere with your day to day living.

I am not sure how old you are, but enjoy these glorious days of living with your family because when you have to be dropping £1000 a month on rent its not going to be so sweet.

I just think personally you trying to do to much and expect everyone to be on the same level as you. Just learn to ignore, think about it are you going to be telling your boss you don't like him leaving his or her plate in the sink? I would just ignore it people learn when they cant find dishes to eat the next morning.
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Posted: 2008-07-02 21:52:19
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Good advise to be honest

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Posted: 2008-07-03 11:08:44
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I had a similar experience at work where I was made an outcast by everyone. If you think that you were right then you should stick to it and try and reach a compromise with your family i.e. my behaviour is because.........you can help if you.........I will change in this way.......... and come to a logical understanding.

I had to leave work because they were all b******s, I was able to move onto much greater things. You and your family need to work it out, without them it will be tough. Even if you have to change a lot for their sake, do it because once you get a decent career and can move out; you will be free to do as you please.

If that doesn't help, go to your place of worship. Pray that God will relax your mind and remove it of stress. You need to be fit mentally and emotionally at this time.
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Posted: 2008-07-03 13:42:53
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