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Oops, I said to her I've been talking to Peter and we're off to Norwich on sat, "ahh great" she said.
I then expressed a few of my concerns and told her some of the things he's said, and she was lost for words, very angry and said I'm not going and she's going to have a word with him, but I explained that if she did, things would forever be akward between us all every time he came round, so lets leave it for now because he's a good friend and I wouldn't want to ruin anything.
Actually, scrap that my mum just came up and read it all and she's really really upset by this.
She said if someone his age, and such a good family friend done this to eryn, she'd flip (oh, shes my sister)...so she feels the same way with me.
Just as she was reading it, he sent me this comment:
*** is inviting you to start sending webcam. Do you want to Accept (Alt+C) or Decline (Alt+D) the invitation?
*** has canceled the invitation to start sending webcam.
Me:
have you got a webcam then
Him:
Yes I have for your information so there! I was just playing with all the buttons before i logged out. We can have a play with webcam next time. Now go to bed or do I have to come round there and smack that sexy slim bum of yours?! lol
My mum's face just dropped when she saw that, and we've been talking about it, neither of us are sure what to do, he's been a great friend for nearly 20 years, and he goes and does this?
I'm upset myself now and my mum looked like she wanted to cry, because he has been such a good friend, we were even going to florida again with him in 2010, but she said that's off.
Damn why would he do this.
I'm 20 and he's 55-60.....and he's a family friend ffs.
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On 2008-08-06 01:34:39, Sammy_boy wrote:
It does sound like he's crossing the line a bit - maybe stay friends with him as it sounds like you're fairly close to him, just make it clear to him that you're straight, only interested in him as a friend and absolutely nothing more.
Might be worth mentioning to him as well you feel a bit uncomfortable with him describing you as 'sexy', make sure boudaries are set and adhered to, if this guy starts becoming inappropriate towards you warn him that your friendship is at stake and to behave himself or you won't see him again, sock shopping or otherwise!
yer my mum said maybe invent a girlfriend and say I can't go Saturday because I'm taking her out.
I'm tempted to just leave it as is and see what he does on webcam and then if he just waves fair enough, if he does anything else then I know that we can no longer be friends.
But to be honest, I don't think I could ever let him hug me etc again (he used to in a friendly way)...but I;m not so sure now.
A gay guy says "Do i have to come round and smack your sexy slim bum"?
Sorry, but wtf
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Posted: 2008-08-06 01:40:12
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Ok i work in a hotel and there are quite a few gay people who work there. I notice that the way they act is sometimes ott in a sense that jokingly they may call anyone sexy as their way of being friendly in a fun sense. I noticed that before. Or he could really mean it. If you think about it i would not say that to a woman who i did not fancy would i. And him saying that to someone who is not gay can be a bit scary. Just gotta make it clear to him if you think its going to go too far with his comments. Keep watching his comments. I would get worried when its sugestive comments.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 01:44:00
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The few comments he made about my body IMO were too far mate, it means he's noticed my body/checked me out, which friends just don't do.
And this one just tipped it way to far ""Do i have to come round and smack your sexy slim bum"? "
I honestly can't believe it, I'm not sure wether to keep talking to him and see what he does next, and go to norwich to see what he does.
Just to make a million % sure.
But I mean, I know he's going to far...I just don't really want to think it because he's such a good friend and it would ruin loads, Also our friends would see him differently too.
There's like a group, mum, woman friend 1 and 2 and him, and he's the godfather to one of the ladies 2 girls who are 13 and 11.
If my mum told them, because they have known me since I was a baby too, I think that they would all be funny with him and think he's a bit sick or something, and I don't want that to happen to him.
Problem is, I don't discuss things with anyone, I just sulk or overlook...but my mum wants me to tell him how his comments are making me feel, but I'd never have the courage to tell someone, especially someone who has always been so kind.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 01:58:29
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Sammy Boy has nailed it on the head.
Tell him you like him as a friend, but you feel very un-comfortable with some of his comments, and make him aware that your as straight as they come.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 11:57:44
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Muhammad-Oli Posts: > 500
Start going on about boobs, beer, rugby and steak pies. That'll get him.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 12:01:43
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You forgot Kebabs.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 12:08:45
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lol Will have to say I'm off out with me bird to get drunk, have a fight, refuel with a kebab then it's back home for some dogging
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Posted: 2008-08-06 12:29:24
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Exactly. Couldn't have of put it better myself.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 13:40:25
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Hmm I still don't know what to do about it, might just ignore his calls/texts, del him from msn and not talk to him again.
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Posted: 2008-08-06 15:49:20
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I think you being a 'friend' with a 55 year old is also a little wierd. Atleast thats what i think
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Posted: 2008-08-06 15:57:05
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