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well it's happened.
My fiancé is no longer my fiancé
I type this with a few tears trinkling down my face.
I type this because none of my friends answer their phone right now.
She's broken off the engagement.
She says it's because she's been thinking about the future.
She needs to work in Japan, and I need to work in Qatar for at least 4 years. She thinks that we wont be able to be with each other for a while and this is not convenient.
She doesn't even bother to think about solving the problems.
One thing I've learned, is that there is no use arguing with a Japanese person. They are too materialistic, and their common priorities order are money/job, friends, then boyfriend/husband.
It's sad.
She's even said, lets stay Boyfriend and Girlfriend but break off the engagement.
How can I stay with someone who's quite easily broken my heart.
Why does this person want to stay with me if she doesn't feel the same.
It seems as if she's just 'keeping her options open'
I feel like crap.
I just dont get how someone who claims they care about you can change overnight....
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:25:04
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Thats pretty bad mate. I hope everything gets better for you and it all works out. Good luck for the future nether the less.
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[ This Message was edited by: coxy on 2005-09-12 17:27 ]
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:27:08
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I know what you're going thru. I've been in your shoes, thankfully many years ago. It's not pleasant, and this may sound harsh but experience has taught me- don't dwell on it. Put it behind you and move on, my friend. I know you're hurting, but the hurt does and will go away.
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:33:45
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how can I move on though when she still wants to be bf and gf.
My whole future is shaped around her.
I'm screwed.
I come home everday, I see my pc filled with her pics and our momets,
pics of us framed everywhere, my future, which is reliant on us being together....
Crap, i'm stupid.
Even my iPod has I love Aiko engraved into it.
i think about having a family with her, and great children.
She thinks about her job, her life, her money, her future. *sighs*
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:36:48
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Sorry to hear about it Amnesia
This is probably scant comfort, but long distance relationships generally fall on stony ground at some stage. It's going to hurt - a lot - for a while.
Don't worry, I'm not going to come out with the 'there's plenty more fish in the sea' line, as whenever anyone said that to me I wanted to punch them!
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:39:54
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I'm sad for you amnesia.
But just go on with your life and don't look back.
You will feel better.
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:41:15
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Make a start by taking the photos down, mate. It's going to hurt like hell, but do it. As for bf & gf, don't do it. You're going to build your hopes up, and THAT'S going to hurt like a b*tch. Lose yourself in work, friends, anything to occupy your mind. I know... i know... give it time, brother
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:42:26
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She'll come to her senses yet old boy... I think the worst thing you can do is remain bf and gf, as she knows she go back to how things were whenever she wants... She needs to know that you will just move on if she's not prepared to get commited... Don't chase her.
Hmm, advice on your love life from a mobile phone message board... yep, things are bad...
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:42:38
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On 2005-09-12 18:36:48, amnesia wrote:
how can I move on though when she still wants to be bf and gf.
My whole future is shaped around her.
I'm screwed.
I come home everday, I see my pc filled with her pics and our momets,
pics of us framed everywhere, my future, which is reliant on us being together....
Crap, i'm stupid.
Even my iPod has I love Aiko engraved into it.
i think about having a family with her, and great children.
She thinks about her job, her life, her money, her future. *sighs*
It's gonna be hard, but I'd say go for a complete split if there's no chance of a proper reconcilliation, so you can both get on with your lives. Otherwise, you will be in some kind of horrible 'limbo' not knowing where you lie, and unable to get on with your life properly.
I know how you feel re. all the reminders, I've found that too - everywhere you look you see a reminder, a picture, momento or gift or a memory from a holiday or other great time.
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:43:32
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Sorry to here this amnesia, i have never been in your shoes so can only imagine how hard this is for you.
Stay strong, things will get better in time.
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Posted: 2005-09-12 18:54:25
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