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awave Posts: > 500

hi,

this girl....i kinda like :$....yeh i know i'm young and inocent and done nothing wrong....but i care about her.....alot...i'm kinda friends with her...and she's told me that she has a boyfriend, but he lives in manchester, she's never met him....she loves him like hell....and she's been kinda dumped and then re-asked-out by him....i dunno why she bothers...and also....he wants to meet her to have sex with her....he's over 16 she's....you know....so what should i do? i need help....fast....because i'm sure she'll manage to meet him sometime....even though it's over 150miles or something...

awave....in need of help!

p.s - sorry if i've made any kind of post error....please delete it if not aloud masseur....or just help me it might be nicer! thankeez......
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Posted: 2006-06-18 00:43:03
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Glenny Posts: > 500

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On 2006-06-18 00:43:03, awave wrote:
hi,

she's never met him....she loves him like hell....

??? theres nothing much you can doreally... you cant force her to change her mind, but try to get her to listen...
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Posted: 2006-06-18 06:14:55
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scapevlocity Posts: 290

i remember watching this 80's movie a a few months ago... with Ione Skye and the amputee from Doom. (LOL, weird, i know - but they were both young then.)

the guy manages to make the girl fall in love with him. they end up having frequent er, well yeah, you know... but then the guy ends up being a dick - gets scared of having a commitment - and sleeps with another girl. his gf finds out by coming across a just-used condom in his bedroom. instead of grovelling and asking for forgiveness, he kind of implies that he needs some space or something like that, and then eventually regrets having broken her heart.

i don't know if it'll work, but er, how about having her watch it?

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the movie's title is "The Rachel Papers"

by the way, a little advice goes a long way, and having a movie night (if you two hang out together a lot) watching The Rachel Papers (or some other movie that she'll be able to relate to with regards to her situation) would be a subtle way of warning her. i find that i subtly get my point across to relatives/friends when i'm having issues with them that i don't quite want to bring up by having them watch a movie/scene in a movie. i do this with my mom quite often, lol... usually when i'm in the living room.

also... how old are you guys? sometimes lessons are best learned by making the mistakes that yield them beforehand. though losing one's virgnity to, as you had implied, a dick, would be a tremendous blow. i was in a relationship a few months back, and as naive as i was, as soon as he was trying to force me to do something i didn't want to do, i broke it off - FAST.

[ This Message was edited by: scapevlocity on 2006-06-18 07:53 ]
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Posted: 2006-06-18 08:32:07
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awave Posts: > 500

Thankeez alot...i know she'll probably end up meeting him - but i dont really hang out with her...other than lunch times at school - but then i am half playing football - all i can see working is spending as much time as possible with her...she knows i likes her - and her best mate thinks i'm in love with her (dunno really but i dont really know the real her) - it all gets seriously confusing - i'll try and get her to listen...but...i dunno if it'll work. @scape - i'm 13 almost 14 and shes 14 - we're in yr9 This message was posted from a T200
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Posted: 2006-06-18 12:35:43
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SCORPIONKING1982 Posts: > 500

well for a start if he's 'over 16' and shes 14, if they have sex its illegal!

im presuming they met online and if so she has no way of knowing if he is who he say he is. when you say 'over 16' how old do you mean?
if i were you, forget all your feelings for her and do everything you can to stop her going. if she insists on going then go with her, tell her to meet him in a public place where you can watch them meet to make sure he aint some frickin wierdo.

if you care about her at all your first priority should be her safety, whoever she chooses to be with.
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Posted: 2006-06-18 12:48:56
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awave Posts: > 500

deleted - wap error wrong post.

[ This Message was edited by: awave on 2006-06-18 15:54 ]
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Posted: 2006-06-18 13:09:04
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awave Posts: > 500

Oh shit wap problem again - cant get to a computer atm so can a mod delete for me? cheers - right...erm by over 16 i mean 17 - so he's basically clasified as a pedo. She thinks he has to be real because shes seen him on webcam and talked to his mates...never talked to him meself so i dont know - erm on the film thing are there any films where some guy meets up with a girl from the internet rapes her and then kills - this could help...i'm gonna have to try everything - got another idea but my thumbs throbing This message was posted from a T200
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Posted: 2006-06-18 14:00:33
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shaliron Posts: > 500

Well have you actually expressed your feelings about the situation (her meeting this complete stranger) in a meaningful way? You really can't do anything unless you confront her properly. Remind her that this is a serious thing, that it's her safety at risk, and that it is illegal! Take her aside, one on one and have a serious discussion.
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Posted: 2006-06-18 14:12:31
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SCORPIONKING1982 Posts: > 500

awave with regards to the film try hard candy, that kinda deals with older men and young girls, havent seen it but its supposed to be good.
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Posted: 2006-06-18 14:23:07
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Luke-the-magic-man Posts: > 500

ok firstly scapevlocity are you a femail member? (just wonderinf as I only know of 2 so far)

Also at aware (soz if I spelt your name right)

Unless she knows the guy form manchester as in fully meet him and talked face to face she will never get it on with him as talking on the net is allot different from talking on the net.

If your in year nine she should really consider the coices about sex, its not all its cracked up to be in some cases (i and lots of blokes personally luv it) but if its not in the right senario its no fun. I would say other things along this matter though am sure the post would be deleted/edited by the mods lol

The best thing you could do is talk to her about it, but to be honnest I think alllot of its just talk and not something that will happen. In the end if she wants to do things like that then its up to her and she will gain a reputation, though I think you will be alright and should get in there matey.

One problem you will have is talking to her, it seems to me that you 2 aint close? But you fancy her. This will make it hard to bring up such a serious topic, best thing to do is get a bit closer (and fast) possibly thorugh her mate then discuss this issue. If you just bring it up currently she will feel insulted that you feel you have to watch over her and protect her and it wont be pretty.

whats your view on sex before 16 though? These days many tenagers are having sex younger and younger, and to a degree it is becoming more and more acceptable.

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[ This Message was edited by: Luke-the-magic-man on 2006-06-18 15:02 ]
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Posted: 2006-06-18 15:57:47
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