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Good luck Amnesia. Get to the bottom of things when you see her (no not that way ;-)) but if her excuses don't wash then do the right thing.
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Posted: 2005-08-26 16:37:19
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I'm very sad to hear that story from you.
But here's my two cents:
- She is playing double: She having fun where she is, but doesn't want to lose you because she knows that "current fun" won't last.
- If she didn't want to stay with you, she'd already dumped you, because dodging your call, emails, etc... she's avoiding you.
- Maybe you're her "life insurance", get it?
Don't know about how you all fell, but being latin (Portuguese) i wouldn't accept it. She/I must be there when I/She need(s) her/me.
Just let it go and talk to her when she comes back.
But i wouldn't give much for that relationship...
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Posted: 2005-08-26 16:39:39
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Wise words indeed. It doesn't sound like she has your best interests at heart. Sadly.
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Posted: 2005-08-26 16:47:42
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you know it's the same with an Arabic relationship.
Except the guy expects the girl to always be there and the guy gives the girl everything she wants.
Now, I hardly ask her for anything to be honest.
i only ask her to get intimate, share her feelings, or better yet, my most SELFISH request is to let her call me while she's in Japan.
Now you see a normal guy might get paranoid and think the worse. e.g. she might be cheating or doesn't care anymore.
But I know that she's the independant type. She's the kind that can survive without speaking to a person for a long time. She doesn't speak to her parents for months at a time, she doesn't speak to some friends for 3-4 months at a time.
But my point is, even if she is that way, she knows that I dont accept it, and so she shouldn't do that with me. Especially since saying hello dosen't take two seconds.
Anyway, I'd rather not get fussed at the moment until I know whats going on.
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Posted: 2005-08-26 16:53:38
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But I know that she's the independant type. She's the kind that can survive without speaking to a person for a long time. She doesn't speak to her parents for months at a time, she doesn't speak to some friends for 3-4 months at a time.
Well from what I see shes just being her normal self and theres nothing to worry about!!! + theres ugly guys in japan, nothing to worry about!
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Posted: 2005-08-26 17:02:00
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"you know it's the same with an Arabic relationship.
Except the guy expects the girl to always be there and the guy gives the girl everything she wants. "
You know this is kind of wierd, I just got engaged and i'm in a very similar situation, tbh every women is different anyone who tells you otherwise is speaking out of their ass.
There are some basic requirements in this kind of situation though,
1# Carry on as you are, i.e. try and get on with life, don't let her bog you down. DON'T forget about her, just file her away in the 'To be dealt with at another time' cabinet
2# When you do eventually get in contact with her you have to be very carefull. First don't be a push over, but at the same time show her that you still care about her (which you do I presume?).
3# This last one is a difficult one (for me anyway). There are times when a women needs (AND IN NO WAY DO I ADVOCATE VIOLENCE TOWARDS WOMEN) a high dosage of Testosterone their way. What I mean to say is you have to be ultra firm with her, don't shout or scream, it has to be controlled. I personally find it very difficult to do this as it's not in my character, but hopefully you've got more balls than me.
I know what you mean about arabic relationships, because i'm in one myself and it's the hardest thing in the world. I do everything to please her and it's still not enough, I have to be able to read her mind to please her, I have to second guess her.
Oh well, I hope you have better luck than me. Please let us know how it turns out, as I could use some good examples.
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Posted: 2005-08-26 17:54:05
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i totally know what you mean.
It's just that you wonder how someone who said they love you can do what they are doing without feeling remorse.
I've made an audio version from an excerpt from my blog.
How do you feel when you see and hear that?
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Posted: 2005-08-26 19:48:27
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that link doesnt work im afraid
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Posted: 2005-08-26 19:51:11
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try again
you must have clicked it while I was uploading.
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Posted: 2005-08-26 19:52:32
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just listened to it, is that you speaking
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Posted: 2005-08-26 19:58:49
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