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Strange you say that, because within a few minutes of having a tantrum with me, she was smiling at me again.

Even though when she was angry, i handed my K750i over and allowed her to delete her contacts & numbers from my phone.

I asked her if she wanted to be friends, but she says she doesnt know anymore. No crank calls tonight either..

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[ This Message was edited by: etaab on 2006-03-30 01:03 ]
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Posted: 2006-03-30 01:51:18
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Men say what they mean, no bullshit. Women have more going on in their heads, and expect us to work out what they really want because they often don't know themselves.

In their heart of hearts they want to think that a man just "knows" what they want. They forget men are the logical ones, where as it's women who are intuitive and able to guess what's wrong. Men don't have that skill, plain and simple (of course these are gross generalisations).

If you want us to do something girls, f..king tell us for God's sake, don't rabbit on about how we should already know what you want!!!

And if you don't know what you want, don't expect us to make up your mind for you. If you let us make up your mind, then as far as we can see, you want to walk around naked, have sex 4 times a day, watch motorsport on Saturday's, and just love waiting on your man hand and foot.
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Posted: 2006-03-30 04:46:11
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@ max_wedge - ive never talked to someone who seems to know exactly what i mean as much as you do. Its rather uncanny.

Well, we were talking last night about things that happened when we were involved together. The main two problems she has with me were at a Christmas party in mid December last year. She saw me giving another woman a Christmas kiss, a woman she never really got on with and at that time were almost enemies. That night i was pretty drunk, and knew immediately id made a mistake when i saw i upset her - i even chased her into the womens toilets to apologise and spent the rest of the night grovelling and telling her how much it was her i wanted to be with, and not the one id kissed.

Then, again in January on a night out she saw me talking to the same woman, and jumped to the assumption something was going on between us, when really i was simply chatting to her to pass the time before i could get to spend time with the one i want.

Ever since shes never believed me that the Christmas kiss was nothing else but that. She simply refuses to believe that she was the only one i wanted to be with, even though months down the line im still unable to let her go. Last night i tried to explain why things happened, i told her and illustrated to her why now we're almost into April that im still hooked up on her, all this time and yet she still does not believe me.

She says those two nights are not important anymore to her, and she doesnt think about it. If that is the case, then why not believe me ? and if she accuses me of not caring, why on earth would it be such a splinter in my mind so many weeks on that she still doesnt believe me ?

Its unbelievable, that she still does not believe me !
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Posted: 2006-03-30 11:37:56
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I'd be careful with this woman, it sounds like she's the jelous type and may be wanting to know what you're up to and with whom if you did get it together, sounds like she may be the type who will be accusing you of having an affair when you're not!

I would say try to be friends with her again, but nothing more, I can see trouble down the line otherwise!
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Posted: 2006-03-30 11:56:07
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That is what ive been wanting for the past couple of weeks, but i get so frustrated when she tells me im such a bad person because of things she hears or is told by other people, and frustrated because she wants me to show her i care about her but not tell her how i feel about her in the romantic way.

She wants me to prove everything i do, but ive no idea how to go about doing it. How do you prove to someone you're crazy about that you care without showing your romantic feelings ? She says she hates people buying her things like flowers or any other bribe type gifts. She says to show her i care, be there for her as a friend - but 99% of the time she wont allow me to do that.

I cant win !
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Posted: 2006-03-30 12:05:41
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It sounds like you're in a bit of an untenable situation. She sounds like more trouble than she's worth. I'd give her an ultimatum - say let's be friends for now, and do things that friends do i.e. do things together, be there for each other etc. and see where it goes, and if she starts behaving like she has been or going on about 'proving' things tell her that will be it no friends or anything. I know it's easy for someone not in the situation to say things like this, but it sounds like you have to be assertive with her or she'll cause you heartache for a long time to come.

I guess she's been badly hurt in the past, and this is her coping mechanism for this, it may be worth her talking about this with someone - either you or perhaps seek professional help, like a councillor to talk her issues through with.
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Posted: 2006-03-30 12:11:03
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Why don't you check out Esato Lonely Hearts for some advice?
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Posted: 2006-03-30 13:17:56
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@ Sammy_boy - again you've all hit the nail on the head. The problem with this woman is shes is extremely beautiful, and incredibly hot. The downside to that is she gets everyone, and i mean everyone coming onto her. It also means shes had a ton of boyfriends, and they've all hurt her in the past.

Shes told me shes sick of men treating her like sh!t, but yet wont give me the chance to show her im different. She'd rather just listen to the bad rumours or chinese whispers and assume the worst. She also misinterprets everything i say to her as something negative. I'll tell her how im feeling, and she'll say im telling her because i want her to feel bad about how shes hurt me, when really i want the opposite, i want her not to feel bad but to understand that the reason why i say such things, or do such things are because of how much she means to me.

Ive tried the whole lets be friends thing, and it worked well for a couple of weeks until last Friday night. Now, she says she doesnt know if she can even be friends with me, which to be honest devastates me. As for ultimatums, ive tried that before with her and she always takes the route i dont want meaning i have to be the one doing the apologising. Its like she knows i'll give in every single time.

Im not exactly sure which way to go right now, im just going to give it time and see how things pan out. If she doesnt even want to be a friend anymore, theres not much i can do about it. However when i asked her if she cared about me at all last night, she got a really angry look on her face and told me she couldnt believe i asked that. But then, if she really does care, how can she just cut me out of her life.. ?
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Posted: 2006-03-30 13:31:24
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The only other thing I can suggest is to phone her up or see her, say to her 'right, as you have continuously treated me badly over the last few days, I'm not going to contact you again. Feel free to phone, text, or call on me when you are ready to talk rationally and sensibly about this situation. I want to be more than friends with you, but your current behaviour is upsetting and confusing me. Have a good think about what you want from life, and what you want from me and then get back to me if you want to be friends or if you want something more. I'll be waiting for you if that's what you want'.

Or something along those lines. She then has to take responsibility for herself and her actions with regards to you, leaves the ball in her court.

of course, she may not ever call you again, but at least you'd know where you stood. It would be hard, and you'd hurt, but would leave you free to find someone who would reciprocate your feelings and not mess you about
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Posted: 2006-03-30 13:49:13
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You know it i weird but it is hard to see why this women is treating you this way etaab.

I mean i know us women moan about men alot and for good reason ha ha (joke) but in all seriousness she is being a complete bitch to you.

I agree with sammyboy arrange to meet her somewere and just get it all off your chest, let her know how much she is upsetting you.

Surely she will see sense eventually, if she continues to treat you this way then you should cut all ties and move on.
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Posted: 2006-03-30 16:56:55
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